Everyday Etiquette Tips

I think it's safe to say we all could use a little etiquette refresher every now and then.  Here's a random assortment.  Let me know what you think.... do you agree?  do you think some are outdated?  I want to hear from you!  


So, here we go....

Always respond to an invitation in a timely manner, even if you don't plan to attend.  Holding off on a response may make the host feel like you’re waiting for a better offer to come along.

Don’t ask the host of a party for a tour of their home unless it’s a housewarming.  Let them offer one if they want to.


If a wedding invitation specifies you and a guest, don’t call to ask if you can bring your children, too.  If your children were meant to attend, they'd be included on the addressing.   


If you've been invited to a wedding but can’t go, you should still send a wedding gift.

Thank you notes are a must after receiving a gift.  Make sure the thank you note gets to the person within a month of receiving the gift.  Weddings allow a little more leeway since honeymooning and establishing a residence are occurring after the ceremony.   

After sitting down at the table and waiting for everyone else to sit down, unfold your napkin and place it in your lap.  If you briefly leave the table, place it on the chair, and when you’re finished with your meal, place it on the left side of the plate.  Never begin eating before everyone has been served.  

To choose the correct silverware at a meal, always work from the outside in (your appetizer utensils like spoon soup and salad fork are on the end).

Keep any food, drinks, briefcases or paperwork in your left hand so your right hand is free for handshakes.

Always address an elder or higher-up professional with their last name until they specify otherwise.


It’s OK to take the last piece of pie, but ask everyone around first if they want it.

Don’t brush your hair in any place other than the bathroom or in private.  Never play with your hair at the dinner table.

 Always say “please” and “thank you” and always acknowledge someone else in the room.